In Whatever I Trust…in that I Expect Happiness

Remember, O my soul, when the day seems less than lovely…it is my duty and privilege to rejoice in God; He requires it of me (Phil. 4:4). Rejoice then in the Giver and His goodness. Be happy in Him, O my heart! And be happy in nothing but God, for…

in whatever a man trusts, from that he expects happiness.

How true the above thought is in my heart. I read this idea in Valley of Vision this morning and thought how often I trust that things, feelings, security, acceptance, love, approval, and more! from people in my life will bring happiness. I trust. I expect. And when I trust and expect and someone doesn’t deliver, I am not happy. The day gets seriously “unlovely.”

This is a shocking thought for me in two ways.

1. I have never considered myself dependent on others for much of anything. I’m a first-born, independent, strong-willed, 40-something year old woman who can be organized and self-sufficient when I want to be. I have often thought it doesn’t matter what others do to me or say about me – I can handle it. (ha!) Then, of course, God in His merciful kindness escorts me through a painful circumstance, to show me I’m not so independent and above what others do and think. Sometimes what they say and do hurts. A lot. I keep asking myself, “Why does this hurt so much?” I think one answer is: because I expect. I expect others to return my deep affection and genuine concern and selfless kindness, but the hard black truth is: sometimes they don’t. Yes, that’s sad and worth some tears flowing down my cheeks, but it shouldn’t be so painful as to cause me to stop functioning or loving or having joy. Or worse yet, become angry, withdrawn and depressed. I’ve done all that. But God, in His loving, gentle, cleansing of my heart, shows me when I find my joy and identity in my trust and expectations, especially of others, I am disappointed and lonely and hurt. A lot. But when I find my joy and identity in Christ alone, He NEVER disappoints or leaves me lonely or sad. He never forsakes (Heb. 13:5) me or ignores me and, oh glorious thought, He never wants to!! I am my Beloved’s and He is mine! (Song 2:16) Always and forever. Nothing and nobody can take Him away from me. More tears flowing, but this time they are joyful ones. I love Jesus! And I am so happy He loves me. I don’t know why He does, but I’ll take His love any and every day. I can trust His love for me, expect it and thus, find my happiness there. *deep sigh of joy*

2. Some of my expectations are as follows: I expect to be loved because I love, I expect to be appreciated by other people because I work hard for them, I trust my friends to be kind to me, I expect everyone to tell the truth, I expect to have a happy,  peaceful life, I expect everyone to like me. And the list goes on. I didn’t know I expected these things until I stopped getting them. Now I can see why I had become unhappy. My expectations were either focused on other people or myself. I wanted everything I wanted, to be fulfilled by others and they simply weren’t doing it. They didn’t measure up to my standards. How dare they! Just kidding, but in my heart, sometimes, I really felt that way. I have a feeling I still will on occasion!  So, God has, once again, revealed a bit more of my heart to me and the best part is He has not just left me there pondering what it means. He has provided a way of escape. (1 Cor. 10:13) He has shown me there is no legitimate expectation I can have of Him that will ever be disappointed. He is worthy to be trusted in every situation. He has also shown me I had put my hope for a lovely day in other people and I needed to stop doing that immediately and trust Him if I really wanted to be happy.

Remember, O my soul, when the day seems less than lovely…it is my duty and privilege to rejoice in God; He requires it of me (Phil. 4:4). Rejoice then in the Giver and His goodness. Be happy in Him, O my heart! And be happy in nothing but God, for…

in whatever a man trusts, from that he expects happiness.

What a lovely day!

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About One Who's Having a Lovely Day!

Hi Friend. I hate writing about myself but there's this little "About You" box I'm supposed to fill up so here's my attempt at that: I am the happily married wife of an awesome elder at our local Bible church. We've been hitched for 29+ years and have 5 amazing sons and 2 equally amazing daughters-in-law. I grew up in East Texas and currently live in North Texas on some acreage where we raise boys and various animals. I love my family, my friends, my church and my life, but mostly, I love Jesus. Not perfectly and not as much as I should, but He is my Savior and I love Him for being willing to save my wretched little self. OK. Enough about me!
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